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Get rid of social anxiety!
While surfing in some forum where I give some tips from time to time I realized that a (VERY) large portion of the men there were suffering from some type of social anxiety - so I thought, "hey, I can help!". So here is a short guide to rocket your social skills through the roof while blowing social anxiety out of the water! Step no. 1: Set Goals -
This is extremely important, so I'll say it again; SET GOALS!
You are probably already aware of the fact that setting goals is important, but I bet you don't do that very often - if at all.
Think of the wildest (legal!) thing you can imagine someone doing in a social situation. Anything, in any situation, it does not matter what it is as long as it is something you would really like to be able to do but think you could never do it because of... Whatever.
That's your ultimate goal. Write it down! Step no. 2: A journey of a thousand miles... -
You probably heard that a journey of a thousand miles always starts with the first step, and nothing could be truer with beating our problem. To banish it from our life once and for all, we need to take a series of steps, slowly moving forward.
So on step 2 I want you to give yourself a list of milestones that you need to take to get to your goal. Follow the golden rule - the smaller the steps the better if you're making a progress that matters. Now what I mean by that is that you need to make your steps as small a possible, because it's easier to do them and you'll notice your progress which will give you a wonderful boost, won't it? However, make your steps count. Make them something that moves you forward.
Some steps you might want to include:
Maintaining eye contact.
Asking someone off the street something.
Starting a conversation with a stranger.
Make a girl you don't know laugh right after you approach her.
Etc.
Include whatever you need. Step no. 3: Take Action -
Final step! Are you excited yet?
Now, that fact that you read so far (even if you've done nothing yet) means that you can get rid of social anxiety very quickly!
So what the final step? TAKE ACTION!
Start with your first step of your list of milestones, and do something about it. It's that easy.
Let assume you chose "Maintaining eye contact" as a milestone you now want to achieve.
Now go out somewhere - the mall, the street, somewhere with people - and just take let's say a 30 minute walk while you maintain a friendly eye contact with people walking by. Smile if you can.
Keep doing that (daily if you can) until you feel good with that and can say that it's no longer a problem. Secret step no. 3.5: Celebrate -
Yes! You moved one step on your journey? Give yourself a huge pat on the back,and do something to symbolize your success. Have yourself look forward to completing each step for this celebration, it'll give you a great boost - trust me. Repeat steps 3-3.5 until you get your goal. Hope that helped,
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This intel was contributed by brutos
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